I have never seen such a beautiful wedding. Jacob and Gabrielle's wedding Mass was exquisite. One striking feature was the involvement of the crucifix. I noted that instead of kissing each other, they kissed the Crucified Christ. Gabrielle's mom sent me this background explanation:
"MARRIAGE & THE CROSS OF CHRIST” In the town of Siroki-Brijeg in Herzegovina not one single divorce has been recorded among its 13,000 inhabitants. Not one single family has broken up in living memory. For centuries, because of the pressure of the Turks and then the Communists, the people suffered cruelly as their Christian faith was always threatened. They knew through experience that salvation comes through the cross of Christ. That is why they have indissolubly linked marriage to the Cross of Christ. They have founded marriage which brings forth human life, on the Cross, which brings forth divine life. When a couple is preparing for marriage, they are not told that they have found the ideal partner. No! What does the priest say? “You have found your cross. And it is a cross to be loved, to be carried, a cross not to be thrown away, but cherished.” If most young couples these days were told this, they would be struck dumb. But in Herzegovina, the Cross represents the greatest love and the crucifix is the treasure of the home. When the bride and groom set off for the church, they bring a crucifix with them. The priest blesses the crucifix, which takes on a central role during the exchange of vows. The bride places her right hand on the crucifix and the groom places his hand over hers. Thus the two hands are bound together on the cross. The priest covers their hands with his stole as they proclaim their vows to be faithful according to the rites of the Church. The bride and groom do not then kiss each other, they rather kiss the cross. They know that they are kissing the source of love. Anyone close enough to see their two hands joined over the cross understands clearly that if the husband abandons his wife or if the wife abandons her husband they let go of the cross. And if they abandon the cross they have nothing left. They have lost everything for they have abandoned Jesus. They have lost their source of life, hope and happiness. After the ceremony, the newlyweds bring the crucifix back and give it a place of honour in their home. It becomes the focal point of family prayer, for the young couple believes deeply that the family is born of the Cross. When trouble arises or if a conflict breaks out, it is before this cross that they will seek help. They will not go to a lawyer, they will not consult a fortune teller or an astrologer, they will not rely on a psychologist to solve the problem. No, they will go straight before Jesus, before the cross. There they will kneel, and in front of Jesus they will weep their tears and pour out their hearts, and above all exchange their forgiveness. They will not go to sleep with a heavy heart because they will have turned to Jesus, the only One who has the power to save. They will teach their children to kiss the cross every day, and not to go to sleep like pagans without having thanked Jesus first. As far back as they can remember, Jesus has always been the friend of the family, respected and embraced. They know that Jesus is holding them in his arms and that there is nothing to be afraid of, and their fears melt away in their kiss to their divine Lord.
